Sometimes I sit and think—not just about my own life, but the lives of people close to me. I think about the joyous moments. But I also think about the trauma—the stuff nobody ever really sees.
I’ve seen it over and over: abandonment, loss, grief, broken relationships, childhood wounds. But I’ve also come to understand something that changes everything:
All things work together for good, to them that love God.
The traumas and dramas we go through are often the very things stripping us of the mainstream thought process—the one we were never supposed to build on anyway.
A lot of us have been building life backwards.
Imagine trying to build a house by starting with the roof—suspending it in the air, trying to balance it while you build downward. No foundation. No stability. But somehow, we’ve done it. We’ve built families before identity. Careers before clarity. Positions before purpose.
The trauma isn’t just random suffering. It’s a stripping.
It’s pulling us back to the raw version of who we really are—the version God originally designed.
Jesus said:
No one who has left houses or lands or family for my sake… will fail to receive a hundredfold now.
— Mark 10:29-30
He was showing us the polarity. The reversal.
It’s not about getting rid of life’s blessings—it’s about reversing how we value them. It's about receiving them from the right foundation.
We’ve built our houses suspended in the air. Now God is trying to bring us back to the ground—to build from purity.
Sometimes brokenness is the doorway to purity.
Sometimes your trauma is not your excuse—it’s your reset.
The house we managed to build in reverse may be standing, but:
The trauma is in the walls.
The stress is in the beams.
The weight is in the ceiling.
And every time you walk through it, you’re reminded of how backwards it was built.
But God’s grace is found in reconstruction.
Scripture says He will tear down, destroy, and root up—so He can plant and build again.
This time, not from the roof.
But from solid ground.
When He rebuilds, it will be a hundredfold better than what you were trying to hold together.
We just have to allow it.
He who has ears to hear—let him hear.
—DM
